How is a mom supposed to do it all? Studies show that both working moms in the employment realm and stay at home moms find themselves overwhelmed, or on the brinks of over whelm, over half of their waking hours. Why? Because with big love comes big desires for your children’s best life. Babies, being born helpless are completely dependent upon their parents or caretakers for survival. This role is not to be taken lightly. Parents and children can feel love exchanged through care-giving. But, the biggest source of love and connection is also the biggest challenge; when to take care of the child by helping or giving and when to take care of the child by letting them take care of themselves.
It is a mother’s journey to relinquish control of the responsibility for her child, their well being, their emotions, their jobs, little by little, day by day. With each step in letting go of responsiblitiy, comes the opportunity for connecting to the child a new way.
1. Practice self care. Hopefully your mom has let go of caring for you at this point. Now someone gets to do the job. It’s your turn and what an honor and privilege it is to be the one who gets to be you and take care of you! With a full self care tank, it is easier to be clear on how to manage the tasks of the day, tasks are completed efficiently and the enjoyment of even the most mundane task increases.
2. Give yourself a break. Let go of the guilt of “mistakes”. When your child was learning to walk, she fell down, sometimes getting bruises. No one ever reprimanded her for the “mistake”. Offer yourself the same kindness. We are always learning. Now is the time of life to learn parenting, balance and more.
3. Include the kids and spouse in on the chores. Who said “family time” is only about playing games. Cleaning, laundry, cooking, shopping can be quality family time. Remember, it is not about getting it done. Be creative and find a way to enjoy the journey.
4. Find your “enough” valve. When separating home from work, allow the transition. Leave work at work. There is little you can do about it now. In fact, putting it to rest is actually doing something about it. It creates a fresh perspective the next day. Then be with your self, your spouse or your children. Know when you have interacted “enough” with each of these categories and allow yourself thoughts of self praise. (They energize you and everyone wins).
5. Listen to your heart. If it is telling you you need help, connection with your spouse, connection with girl friends take care of it.
6. Notice what responsibility you can let go of again. They grow fast! As you teach your kids self care, they are learning life skills that will be solid for your grandchildren.
Patty Jackson, Family and Relationship Life Coach
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Patty Jackson, Life Coach Trainer
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