A common complaint that many busy moms have is that their lives are so hectic that they don’t have any time for themselves. You are so busy with your job, looking after your children, and making sure that that pesky laundry basket doesn’t overflow that you neglect the most important person in your life – yourself. Very often, this also extends to your other half – your husband or partner. To hold any relationship together, you need that very precious commodity known as time. If you have no time for your partner, you will find that very little is holding the two of you together. And if you have no time for yourself, you will eventually become stressed and overburdened, and you will soon find that there is no place left for you in the scheme of life that you have built up for yourself.
So how do you give yourself (and/or your partner) some special attention when you have a busy schedule?
Very often, you will find that the only time you have for each other (or for yourself) is in the late evenings, when the children have gone to bed. And when your children become teenagers, you will find that even those private, precious evenings together are no longer. Therefore, you will retreat into the one place where you have any privacy or can really be yourself – and that is your bedroom.
And how do you keep your bedroom comfortable, tidy, and inviting when you are so busy? Here are some tips:
- Try to keep superfluous clutter out of the room as far as possible. It can be tempting to use a bedroom as a dumping ground, especially when you are very busy. Things you want to keep from your children get shoved in there, as well as unattended clean laundry when guests arrive, and other bits and pieces. Find homes for all these items instead, rather than throwing them all over the bed (and then finding you are too tired to clear them away).
- Invest in a few pleasant accessories for the room, such as a luxurious and pretty area rug. A wool flokati rug is just right for giving you the sensuous feeling that you want in your bedroom.
- Paint the walls a relaxing color, such as magnolia or pale blue, to help your general mood.
- Treat yourself to some things that are just for you and you alone, such as your favorite body lotion, hair extensions, or a facial. Don’t feel guilty about spending your money on such luxuries. They are there to remind you that you are a person, not just an automaton that works hard to feed your family.
- Show your partner you care by leaving him little notes on the bed or in his drawers. You’d be surprised how much pleasure such small gestures bring.
- If you want to feel really romantic, sprinkle some rose petals on the bed just before bedtime.
A few simple gestures such as these can make all the difference to your and your partner’s emotional wellbeing, as well as your own sense of self.
